What do your shoes say about you?

"Give a woman the right shoes and she will conquer the world."

Marilyn Monroe

-Pam, don't you get tired of those heels? -It is one of the most common questions I have received all my life, whether I am giving a course that lasts hours, a conference, counseling or even a rock concert.

-First dead than simple! I answer them. And as I once heard Victoria Beckham say: “I can't concentrate when I'm wearing flat shoes”.

This is what clothes are like, there are people who dress to be comfortable, there are people who choose a certain garment to draw attention to the garment itself, there are those who choose them to show off a part of their body or to communicate an idea or philosophy of life, but what we all agree on is that: we choose our clothes for how we feel about them and for what we want to communicate to the world.

Whether we do it consciously or unconsciously, it is!

We show on the outside a projection of what we feel inside; in fact, the psychology of color points out that we choose the colors of our clothes and accessories largely because of how we feel.

Clothes help us "get into character", it does not mean that we are liars, hypocrites and withered, each of the characters we choose represents us and is really part of our range of possibilities, they are called: IDENTITIES. For this reason, just as we do not express ourselves or behave in the same way in front of different circles of people, we do not always dress the same either. In fact, to a great extent we dress simply for ourselves, and that's the way it should be! What we communicate to ourselves through our clothes and accessories influences the way we think, feel and behave. A clear example is underwear, wearing ripped panties and socks just because "no one is going to see them" is not justifiable, you are nobody, you are the most important person in your life, and you do see them!

It is proven that one of the main effects of lingerie does not occur on your partner when they see you, but on yourself when you are dressing and preparing for that moment, you are getting into character and your brain knows it, so it produces the necessary biochemicals to accompany that image in the mirror and those thoughts, with a propitious and congruent internal state. Pure magic!

Well, that's exactly what happens with shoes. The fact of being on our feet, sometimes not so visible to people, does not justify that we bring them broken, stained or shabby. Wearing good quality shoes will make you like them, be as comfortable as possible for you and last if you know how to take care of them. What is cheap is expensive, both for your feet, for your column and for your wallet. Regardless of whether they are high or low, a good last makes all the difference, that's why brands committed to quality, like Regina Romero, will take care that your shoes meet these 3 characteristics.

In addition to how they make you feel, there is a fundamental aspect that we must consider, what they communicate! Your shoes say a lot about you and if you know how to choose, they can become the focal point and most special of your entire wardrobe. A simple combination of garments, with spectacular shoes can help you communicate elegance, good taste and style. Good quality shoes, well cared for and in a neutral color, can be the key that makes your whole look look more professional and formal, or that, on the contrary, make your expensive tailored suit from France, look cheap and don't shine

But I am going to reveal a secret to you… most people do not know how to combine them according to the type of clothing, the context and the dress code! Yes, shoes are a science, and having the information to know how to use them properly according to the occasion, will make you feel more confident and will allow you to surprise even the most expert, with your conscious and intelligent handling of fashion and style. . For this reason, in my book The Magic of Persuasion: discover the tricks and secrets behind persuasive language, charisma and successful relationships , I published a small table on what shoes communicate, after an exhaustive study I carried out to gather all the information in an infographic that I consider so valuable that I want to share it with you today. Here you have it!

“Shoes have a mystery that only the woman who wears them knows, it is the way of walking, it is much more”: Manolo Blahnik

Pamela Jean Zetina is an advisor in Strategic Communication, Public Speaking and Public Image for personalities from the artistic, political and business worlds; She is an international speaker and teaches online courses on assertive communication, persuasive negotiation, charisma and personal branding through www.pamelajean.mx

She is the author of The Magic of Persuasion published by Aguilar, which a year after its publication became a Best Seller thanks to people's preference. You can buy it physically, digitally or as an audiobook at this link: https://www.megustaleer.mx/libros/la-magia-de-la-persuasin/MMX-010570/LQ/9786073178136

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